I discovered this spoof of a motivational poster recently and I was inspired to write a blog about it. In addition to being very well done, it’s also quite funny….because like all great humor…there is a lot of absolute truth in it.

As the poster says – “DYSFUNCTION: The Only Consistent Feature of all your Dissatisfying Relationships is you.” With the close-up visual of a breaking chain, the poster reminded me of the catch phrase from that old prime time game show that was popular in the U.S. for a very short time called “The Weakest Link.” Although I didn’t watch the show, I do recall that the British female host of the show always dispatched those who gave an incorrect answer with a very short and dismissive statement – “You are The Weakest Link. Goodbye.”

While it certainly may not be a flattering portrayal, it stands to reason that as the one constant in a series of unique relationships, your own behavior, actions, beliefs and habits may be worth examining. For starters, there is nothing random about human behavior. Your actions are nothing more than a vehicle to meet your needs and when you look deeper and step outside the situations at hand, there is always a clearly discernible pattern that comes into view. There are only six essential needs in the human condition and everyone has a primary need or a center of gravity where they live most often. For instance, if your need for “predictability” or “significance” is your “go-to” need, that will come up again and again and potentially sabotage your success in relationships. The challenge is – we can’t always see these patterns of behavior that hold us back because we are too emotionally invested to take a good, hard and clear look.

If you’re struggling to get what you want in a relationship – or even if you’re trying to figure out where you’ve gone wrong in the past, relationship coaching can help you uncover some hidden issues quickly. Then once you get a new perspective on some old problems, we can work to create a brand new awareness – and develop some brand new skills, too. Bottom line, when you combine new awareness with brand new skills…it adds up to all new possibilities. Of course, you can choose to keep doing what you’ve been doing…but how long will you keep yanking your own chain before you choose a smarter alternative?

Do you or someone you know need help to transform a relationship? Contact Relationship Coach Dave Elliott at dave@legendaryloveforlife.com or phone 443-858-7129.

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Listen to what my clients say about the speed of change once they get outside of the challenge – and get a new perspective on the solution. After all, doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result is the very definition of insanity. So if you’re not getting the relationship results you want, let’s book a laser session and you’ll come away with a plan of how to get  more love – and a lot less frustration.