Cutting through the fog and getting down to what’s real.
As a relationship coach, I occasionally get called in when there is a real disagreement that is getting in the way of what people say they want. Even though I’ve been brought in to assist with some pretty serious and even heated deadlocks, I am nevertheless surprised how quickly we usually negotiate some kind of agreement. The truth is, there’s something very powerful about a neutral third party who focuses on solutions, not problems, while at the same time, finding common ground and building a bridge to understanding. By the same token, there’s also something powerful about the fact that people are a LOT more mindful of not looking bad in front of a third party so those little careless, incendiary comments or even digs tend to disappear. That’s remarkably helpful when it comes to resolving conflict.It’s very important to remember that when emotions run high, decision-making goes low. That’s because of your body’s hard-wired fight or flight response that was installed as a safety mechanism to insure survival of the species. So even though it may feel bad when you are triggered by a situation, that response is actually an evolutionary advantage that keeps you safe.
One of the other ways I help people get beyond stuck is because I really listen to what the people say and help translate so I can quickly help them get down to what’s real. Most arguments tend to happen “up in the fog” where things get murky…hard to see…and the brain has trouble making clear decisions. It’s the same reason we talk about “The Fog of War” because under extreme stress, decision-making suffers greatly, occasionally resulting in tragic, friendly fire accidents. I believe the fog metaphor is incredibly accurate that’s why I tell my clients about my “low beam strategy.” Just like when you’re driving down the road on a foggy night when conditions are less than ideal, hitting your high beams and speeding ahead is risky and dangerous to say the least. The safest thing to do is to slow down, hit the low beams to see what’s underneath the fog…then proceed with caution. Arguments are just like that…what you’re arguing about is never what you’re arguing about. There’s always a root issue below the fog. For example, I once had a couple having a protracted and emotional disagreement on finances and estate planning issues…but underneath all of the math and madness…was a couple who simply couldn’t trust one another after too many disappointments and betrayals. Once we addressed the underlying trust issue, the details became much less important.
If you or someone you know is trapped in “the fog of war,” it can be a dangerous place to navigate alone. I can help clear things up much quicker – all the while helping to safely rediscover a clearer, brighter and much more compelling future.
Do you or someone you know need help to navigate through the fog of a relationship challenge? Contact Relationship Coach Dave Elliott at dave@legendaryloveforlife.com or phone 443-858-7129.

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If you’re feeling stuck at an impasse and unable to get beyond your problem, now there’s hope for a speedy resolution that can work for everyone involved. Listen to what my clients say about how quickly they got results when they really needed them. After all, doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result is the very definition of insanity. So if you’re not getting the relationship results you want, let’s book a laser session and cut right through to the heart of the matter…unless, of course, staying stuck is meeting your needs somehow…hmmm…something to think about…
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