While talking with a client the other day, he was telling me of his experience back in the dating game again after a relatively recent divorce.
In explaining how he felt about a couple of the women he met, he said something that I thought was particularly profound and I want to especially share it with my feminine readers. That’s because it is a crystal clear picture of the masculine mindset and how it processes information. Guys, stay with me…there’s definitely something in here for you, too.
What A Man Does
My client’s core energy is definitely masculine and I’ve seen that grow even stronger on the other side of his divorce. That’s because in addition to being a competitive athlete, he is also now even more powerfully driven to succeed in his career after seeing his financial condition suffer in the settlement. (When you combine these life conditions with his focus, determination, problem-solving capabilities and his new commitment to mission, it all adds up to a man at his best).
What A Man Needs
After dating a couple of new women, my client decided that none of them held his interest because given a choice of continuing his athletic performance training or spending time with them…he honestly preferred the training. That’s when he said it. “I feel like I’m this fire…and these women are just like water on my fire. What I really want is a woman who knows how to throw a little gasoline on the fire.” How’s that for an amazing visual? If that doesn’t tell you all you need to know about the masculine psyche – and any intimate relationship, for that matter – nothing will.
What Can We All Learn From This?
When it comes to relationships, people’s preferences are based on one thing and one thing only…how they want to feel. My client is loving the way he feels right now because he has rekindled the masculine fire that was burning within him. That fire started to go out after a long but not fully satisfying marriage. My client’s unconsciously brilliant fire analogy really comes down to one lesson whether you’re talking about a man’s needs – or those of a woman. What we all really want is someone who not only sees the best in our fire…but also comes along and stokes it even higher. Specifically, my client was saying that the women he was meeting were feeling more like an obligation – instead of the celebration he really wanted.
So, my friends, I leave you with a new, compelling question to ponder. How will you stoke your partner’s fire and take it to a whole new level? When you answer that question, you will find a passion that continues to burn with the kind of intensity that not only generates heat, but light, also.