Before I give you the news, let me give you a little “back story” that got me thinking about this.
I just started working with a client who turned 35 and finds herself single again. She has decided to step up and do 35 dates in 35 days and I will be helping to coach her along the way.
We’ve just gotten started and she has already had some huge breakthroughs that guarantee she emerges on the other side a very different woman. Perhaps most exciting of all, it’s those very changes she’s about to discover that will change the trajectory of her life forever…and it’s all going to happen in just over a month. Now that’s what I’m talking about when I promise rapid transformation.
I’ve been very clear with my new client – her limiting beliefs and sabotaging behavior have kept her stuck in the past and left unchecked, she can only expect more of the same. The great news is that now that she has accepted an outside perspective of how she is being perceived by men, she is making some HUGE shifts in a short time.
Here’s the news:
If you’re not happy with the state of your relationship, the results you’re getting over and over are not an “accident” or a coincidence. There’s a reason why they’re called patterns – and patterns don’t lie. Furthermore, if you keep doing what you’ve been doing that hasn’t worked, can’t work and won’t ever work – you’ll keep getting more of what you’ve been getting. Said differently, if you’re getting a similar response from multiple people who don’t know one another, that might be a clue. It’s not like they all got together and agreed to treat you the same way.
Hold on a minute….
Now before you get angry or defensive about what I’ve said, I’m not saying it’s your fault if you aren’t getting the results you want. The view is far different when you’re “inside the problem” and quite simply, you don’t know what you don’t know. I have a fundamental belief that people are always doing the best they can with what they have in the moment; no more, no less.
Does this sound familiar?
If you are in a recurring struggle with your significant other (or anyone else, for that matter), there’s something you’re doing – or not doing – that is creating that.
If you’re single and only attracting partners who aren’t emotionally available, there’s something about you that’s causing it.
If you’re not meeting any potential partners…yep, you guessed it. Something you’re doing – or not doing – is sabotaging you.
If you can’t seem to meet anyone with whom you click…I think you get the idea.
Is this good or bad?
Some may find the idea that they are, in fact, more than a little responsible for their own relationship struggles to be the worst news ever. It’s a lot more satisfying to the ego to blame conditions or even other people. However, I’d love to suggest that it could be the BEST news ever because the only thing you can change in this world is your own thoughts, ideas, behaviors and actions.
The good news is if you’re doing it, we can re-do it and get much better results. A new and OBJECTIVE PERSPECTIVE on an old problem can rapidly shift it all – and that’s why a Relationship Coach may be the best investment in you that you’ll ever make. Developing a new awareness or some new skills could change that, and probably faster than you think.
Here’s the bottom line:
Bottom line, if you’re not happy with any relationship in your life, I am here and would be delighted to help you shift that forever and give you access to all new and much better possibilities. Now here’s a quick quiz to see if you’re paying attention: now that you know that my help is available…if you choose not to accept my offer…whose fault will that be if you do nothing and stay stuck?
If you’re not happy with your relationship situation, it just makes no sense to continue to curse the darkness while refusing to move toward the light…does it?
Let’s discuss your specific situation and how I can help you further. Please contact me for your free laser coaching session at 443-858-7129.