Self-sabotage

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March 17, 2015

Are you ready to learn your lesson?

What if that thing that “always happens to you” is no coincidence? Recently I answered a question in an online forum where I coach and I thought it would be a valuable share here for my readers as well. The meme that generated the question said “Sometimes in life, your situation will keep repeating itself until you learn your lesson.” […]
December 9, 2014

The Most Powerful Gift You Can Give…Just in Time For The Holidays

The most empowering belief you have is believing in someone else when they need it the most. I want to share a story that happened just this week with a longtime and dear friend of mine. My friend is an actress whether she’s in a production or not. With her big personality, her infectious laugh and her flair for the […]
November 19, 2014

It took him 29 years to learn how to love his wife…

But the amazing part about it was that he never stopped trying… I’ve been working with a couple that I’ve come to admire so much and their story is so incredible, I wanted to share it here. They came to me after a pretty huge issue caused her to walk out…and that created the space for me to help them. […]
November 3, 2014

The Roots Of Self-Sabotage Run Deep

How We Accidentally Got To The Bottom Of One Client’s Challenge… As a coach, I wear a lot of different hats when working with a client. Sometimes, depending upon the situation and the preferences of my client, I’m a teacher…a cheerleader …a taskmaster…and a detective. Today I want to share a story that shows how hard it is to get […]
October 9, 2014

Why controlling your partner won’t work…but ENROLLING them will…

Here’s a R.A.D.I.C.A.L.™ solution for re-creating an effective partnership Have you ever had a situation where both you and your partner were at wit’s end when it comes to working together effectively? Have you ever wished your partner would just do what you wanted…the way that you wanted it…and when you wanted it? If so, I understand your frustration and […]
August 18, 2014

It’s not only your weaknesses that sabotage you. Sometimes it’s your strengths.

How one client discovered that sometimes your strengths are a sword that cuts both ways I started working with a new client recently who needed some help turning around her failing relationship…and she wanted some support in starting her new business at the same time. While that might correctly seem like 2 very different jobs, the truth is that human […]
October 2, 2013

You’re Either Victim – Or Victor. Why You Can’t Have It Both Ways.

How One Woman Stopped Feeling “Less Than” And Started Calling In More… We all have disappointments and hurts in life: Things that didn’t work out. People that let you down or hurt you. Goals that haven’t materialized. The thing is – nothing has any meaning except for the meaning you give it. Those who develop the skill to find the […]
June 20, 2013

Are you making this big mistake that damages relationships?

The problem is so common, psychologists had to create a term for it – I call it a relationship killer. There is a habit that is so common and pervasive in human relationships that it has its own name. Even though you may not have heard of Fundamental Attribution Error or even know what it is, I can tell you […]
May 6, 2013

Do you know your value?

This simple question will not only turn around a troubled relationship. It’ll turn around your life. It seems like I have so many clients right now whose current challenges all lead back to one unmistakable root. They simply don’t know their own value. In one case, it’s a bullying partner who undermines my client’s self-confidence and very sanity, then blames […]
March 28, 2013

Throwing Yourself Down The Steps is not recommended

It sounds like such common sense…yet why do so many people do it? Most people wouldn’t consider standing at the top of a steep flight of stairs and hurtling themselves downward, tumbling and bouncing painfully every step of the way until the forces of gravity and inertia are exhausted and they come to a stop. In the best case scenario, […]